My Amazing Fiancé: Julia Baxter

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My lovely Julia!

 

In honor of Women’s History Month, I would like to blog about some of the very special and incredible ladies in my life. They inspire me, guide me, get me through the rough times and most incredibly of all, put up with me and all the nonsense that comes with that!

For this first post, I will focus on my fiancé, Julia Baxter. What an incredible stroke of luck it was to have met her! Those of you who have followed my blog from the beginning know my story. I was thoroughly convinced no woman would ever want to be involved with me. The rest of my life would be spent in solitude. I was too unattractive, too neurotic. Guys like me only get the girl in the movies. Turns out, I was wrong.

Sometimes, it does happen in real life. The funny, anxiety ridden artist can end up with a wonderful lady. (One of the first things I noticed when I saw a photo of Julia, was her resemblance to Diane Keaton. Maybe that had something to do with it.) I decided to take a shot at a dating site. Yes, there are all kinds of crazies out there. I interacted with a few. Went on a couple of dates, none of which worked out. Then, I clicked on one of the site’s suggestions, you know, here’s someone you might like. I was intrigued.

The story gets interesting here. Julia had no photos on her profile. But it was well written, funny and sincere and she seemed like the type of woman I am attracted to. Neurotic and complex! Unbeknownst to me, Julia listed herself as living in a different part of the State of New York, which put her geographically close enough to where I was living in Connecticut at the time. Quite fortunate as it is unlikely our paths would have ever crossed otherwise.

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Summer fun in Cooperstown.

 

Julia, as it turns out, was on a very bad date that day. She came home lamenting the inability to find a smart, funny guy. Logging on to the dating site she saw that she had been visited by a guy whose profile title was, “Smart, Funny”. The rest, as they say is history! We dated for two years and I requested her hand, and the rest of her beautiful self, in marriage on a horse carriage in Central Park. We are happily engaged and enjoying our lives together.

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She said yes!

 

Julia is an absolutely remarkable person. She works at SUNY Oneonta, placing student teachers and teaching education classes. She also teaches Sunday school and does counseling and is a Reiki master! Acting in community theater musicals, planning vacations and always ready to help family and friends. I get tired just thinking about everything she does. She a terrific mother, sister, friend and truly, the love of my life. She supports and inspires me. I would not be accomplishing the things that I have been lately, were it not for her.

As an empath, Julia reads me like a book, always knowing what I need, whether that be a pat on the back or a kick in the ass. (It’s generally the latter.) Therapy and medication certainly were the major factors in helping me deal with my depression and anxiety issues, but Julia has also been vital in that regard. She understands because she has the same issues! What a perfect match!

We enjoy our life, cars parked together in the driveway, shoes side by side on the porch, my Zoloft next to her Prozac in the medicine cabinet. A match made in the DSM. I love you, Honey. I don’t know how I ever survived without you, but I’m so glad I don’t face that now.

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Media Available on the Facebook Fan Page

Diana finally spells out the problem to her clueless husband, Danny.

ISN’T ROMANTIC? is now full steam in post production and we should have a finished film sometime in January.  We are all very excited and already have a few festivals we are planning to enter.  One we definitely want to submit to is the Litchfield Hills Film Festival which is held at the Warner Theater in Torrington, CT.  It would be fun to see it screened there since we shot the opening scene at the Warner.

As the film nears completion, I am stepping up my efforts to promote it.  It’s going to be a nice movie, sweet, quirky and very funny.  The film has a Facebook fan page and I am now placing content on it regularly.  I have production stills, updates, screen captures (like the one above) and I’ve placed a very funny outtake on the site.  The outtake seems to be quite popular and I have more I am planning to post as time goes on.

There are actually a fair number of people looking forward to seeing the film, which is encouraging.  I have no delusions about making money from it, but it would be great if a large number of people could enjoy it.  It would be very helpful to me moving forward to build a following that will look forward to future projects.

The screen capture shown here features me, with my co-writer, producer and co-star (I’m not the only one who did multiple tasks!) Cooper Campbell as Danny and Diana.  Here, a frustrated Diana, after locking herself in the bedroom has popped out to make clear to her husband just what is lacking in their marriage.  The T-shirt I’m wearing is a tribute to my Brooklyn heritage.  I like this shot and I think it captures the basic story of the movie.

I would encourage those of you who read my blog to check out the Facebook page @ www.facebook.com/isntitromanticmovie .  The outtake I posted yesterday is very funny.  I also have interesting little facts included in the captions of the photos discussing the inside story.

Diana struggles with the groceries getting no help from Danny.

Diana struggles with the groceries getting no help from Danny.

Here’s another screen capture showing that for Diana, being married to the greatest maker of romantic comedies in the country is not the experience Danny’s female fans believe it to be.  This was a fun film to make and it will be equally fun to watch.  I honestly believe that.  Take a look and tell your family and friends.

The Great Danny Kresky

With the first day of shooting three weeks from today, there’s another job that I have on ISN’T IT ROMANTIC?  that I need to begin working on.  I’ve spent most of my time being Paul Rothbart real life writer/director.  But for this film to work, I have to be just as effective as Danny Kresky, the fictitious and highly successful writer/director who is IIR’s protagonist.

Danny likes to refer to himself as “The Great Danny Kresky”.  He’s tremendously successful and has no problem telling anyone about it. Danny is extremely bright, very talented and really funny.  He’s got a hyperactive imagination and tends to blur reality and the fantasy of the movies.  Danny is very much like his creator, just exaggerated.  He is based on my stand up persona.  I’ve played him thousands of times.  But always as a comic.  Now, I’ve got to portray him as a character in a film.

The real challenge is in creating a convincing relationship with my co-writer and co-star who is playing Danny’s lovely wife, Diana.  Diana is smart and stable, a grounding influence on Danny.  Without her, he would not have succeeded at the level that he has.  They’ve been married twenty years and despite the problems they have in the film, they are devoted to each other and still very much in love.

This is where we both need to work.  Neither myself nor my co-star has ever been married or in a relationship nearly that long.  We’ve only known each other a little over a year.  We are friends and click very well as writing partners and have displayed chemistry in reading these and other roles together.  I have faith we can pull this off, but we do need to work on it.

We’ve both already begun developing the characters.  Actually not too difficult for either of us.  As I said, Danny is based on my stand up persona and I wrote Diana for my co-star, based upon her and she has tweaked Diana to fit.  Now, we’ve got to rehearse so we can realistically portray the ups and downs of the Kreskys.  It’s one of the keys to this film succeeding.  I have faith in both of us.  And I’m willing to do whatever it takes.  She feels that way too.  This film is our baby and we’re going to make it work.